Millennials Are Giving Up On Marriages and 9-to-5 Jobs for THIS Reason

Billimarie Lubiano Robinson
4 min readJul 19, 2022

Don’t believe the hype — it’s not about freedom or commitment issues. The truth is actually a lot simpler than that.

Sunset in the desert, pink clouds, light blue and yellow skies, the creosote bushes covering the field as far as the eye can see. A peaceful horizon. Photograph for the “For Every Star, A Tree” movement.
Photo by the author. (For Every Star, A Tree)

I came across an article by a man who has been married for 5 years and has been tied down to his job for 10 years. That’s right: 10 years straight.

He claims that our generation is giving up on marriage and 9–5 jobs for two reasons:

  • the “Freedom of Choice” paradigm
  • the “No Strings Attached” mindset

As someone who is not in a 5 year marriage nor in a 10 year job, here’s exactly why this thinking is wrong, and what companies — or those who are marriage-minded — should realize, instead.

None of us are commitment-phobic. We’re all just bored of the same old bullshit.

Browse any advice column, Twitter thread, or subreddits (r/relationship_advice, r/antiwork) and you’ll quickly get tired of the same toxic themes with the same recurring cast of characters, playing out the same storylines — over and over again.

Your lover cheated on you? Might have been a novelty of the previous generations, but with our internet childhood? Please. We’ve heard — and discussed — it all.

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